I am a qualified Gestalt counsellor regulated by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and bound by its code of ethics and confidentiality. I am here to offer you support, enabling you to overcome the barriers you might put up when it comes to reaching out to others for help. I say this because we will often complain that someone is not supporting us, but when we look deeper it is often us who is stopping that from happening. I might, for example, be a man who projects strength, believing that if I show vulnerability it is “unmanly,” but the consequences of that is that others will think I am an distant “island-like” figure who doesn’t want or need their help and support.
Alternatively, I might be a woman who does exactly the same, or who already feels disadvantaged by her gender, so doesn’t ask for help or support unless it is absolutely critical (and often too late). What we miss out in this – and Yes that’s all of us – is the deeper connection we get when do bond with another human being over out troubles, or their’s. Helping another human being always makes us feel better – that’s a scientific fact – and what we don’t always see either is that what is going on for us is usually happening for others too. If only we could all open up about it?
The therapy room is an area of experimentation, whereby you can try out new patterns of behaviour in there and, if it feels OK (Trust me – it usually does) eventually practice it out there in the real world too.